MDMA isn’t the “LOVE DRUG” people tend to think it is. It is more of a gateway to intimacy. Many times couples take MDMA expecting to feel extremely sexual and horny, only to realize that they spent the last several hours having a heart-to-heart conversation with their partner while gently touching them in an intimate, but non-sexual way.
Sex on MDMA
Sex on MDMA is something that many revelers are familiar with. If anything, ecstasy (a street drug that in most cases has MDMA mixed with other drugs), has earned the reputation for being the party drug that gets things going in the ״right direction״.
While for some people, an ecstasy high removes their inhibitions and makes them more open to the idea of random sex, for others, it is a gateway to true intimacy with another being that does not need to culminate in coitus.
This brief article demystifies all there is to sex on MDMA. Here is a little bit of background.
What is MDMA?
MDMA is the abbreviation for a synthetic drug called 3,4-methylenedioxy-methamphetamine, which is a hallucinogenic compound. Ecstasy is a form of MDMA that comes in tablet form, while Molly comes in crystalline forms. The drug can be swallowed, smoked, snorted, or inserted through the anus.
Both ecstasy and Molly are popular drugs at raves. MDMA heightens one's senses, bringing music and color to life. It also adds a touch of sensuality to touch, so a hug from a stranger will become very gratifying.
When ingested, the effects kick in hard and fast, plunging the user into a state of euphoria. Usually, a dose of about 125mg of MDMA will produce a high that lasts for approximately 3-hours; this should more or less take you through the night.
How MDMA Works
MDMA triggers the release of dopamine and oxytocin which can the fuel sex drive for some people. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter found in the brain and is responsible for feelings of pleasure and desire that fuel the sex drive. Oxytocin, the hormone produced during breastfeeding, is responsible for the feeling of wanting to cuddle and be physically intimate.
What Are the Effects of Mdma on Sex?
MDMA produces mild but intense hallucinogenic experiences that promote a sense of connectedness with the universe and the ability to feel more open and let your guard down. When used to enhance sex, it intensifies the feeling of love and intimacy. Sex doesn't just feel like intercourse; it feels like the art of sharing and receiving back love. This makes it a popular sex drug among the LBGTQ community. A study that Joseph Palamar conducted describes the effects that MDMA has on sex.
The 2014 Palamar Study: Sex on MDMA for Gays and Bisexuals
Palamar conducted a study in 2014 to investigate the effects of MDMA on sex. The study participants were gays and bisexuals, all males between the ages of 18 and 59. All participants had used club drugs at least six times in the three months preceding the study. Here is what the survey revealed about sex on MDMA:
1. The sex was “more sensual than sexual.”
Participants reported that their bodies felt warmer and were more sensitive to touch after using MDMA. It feels like all nerve endings are stimulated, and every touch is electrifying. At its peak, MDMA prompts users to be open with lovers and engage in intimate conversations without necessarily being sexual. Kisses felt more passionate and not merely physical. One non-frequent user reported that sex on MDMA felt more like making love and not just having sex. Users have also described the feeling as being romantic but not horny.
2. Impotence may come with it.
Some users reported being unable to climax when on MDMA, despite enjoying the ride up to the peak. Some males may even be unable to get hard while on MDMA. Therefore, it is advisable to wait for the effects of the MDMA to wear off before you can proceed to real boning if you have to do it. Otherwise, some users are usually very gratified with the physical and emotional intimacy that MDMA provides.
3. Lower sexual inhibitions
Like alcohol, MDMA appears to reduce sexual standards, making it easier for users to intimate strangers. This may not necessarily culminate in copulation, as MDMA tends to dampen sexual drive. However, it may make it easier for users to get intimate and sensual with people they have just met. It may also make you flirtier than you would ordinarily be.
A 19-year-old reported that when high on MDMA, he found it easier to hook up with people they would not otherwise be attracted to when sober. This matches with results obtained from a more extensive 2006 survey that found that heavy ecstasy users took more sexual risks than light users.
4. MDMA intensifies sexual pleasure
MDMA triggers euphoria, which can enhance sexual pleasure. It relaxes the mind and body and allows the user to enjoy “mystical” sexual experiences. Under the influence of MDMA, caressing becomes more meaningful, and there is no rush to "finish up the act." In short, MDMA makes sex more pleasurable and significant, even though it may inhibit climaxing.
It appears that MDMA enhances intimacy during sex and helps couples to open up to each other. It may not necessarily improve the “boning” but rather make sense more meaningful. Those who use MDMA for sex enhance the feeling of mutuality, closeness, and sensuality.
What Does Sex on Ecstasy Feel Like?
It is important to understand that sex on MDMA and sex on ecstasy are not always the same. In most cases, ecstasy is not pure MDMA. It is a mixture of MDMA with other drugs. The combination may produce a different effect and it depends on what other substances are present in the specific ecstasy you bought on the street.
Ecstasy reduces inhibitions and makes users more open to the idea of sex. In situations where one would naturally not give in to sex, they may submit under the influence of ecstasy. It also heightens sexual feelings, making sex more pleasurable. However, some users report not being able to orgasm until after the effects have dissipated.
What Do Users Say?
Here are a few things users said about sex on Ecstasy:
“I hold the person even more; the kisses are more conducive; the warmth is there. It doesn’t have to be penetration necessarily or any type of copulation,” stressed one user, while another added: "I get a lot more flirty when I'm on it, and I'm just like, 'OK, I need to hook up now,'" said one 20-year-old participant. "I love making out when I'm on it. I'm like, 'OK, I have to find someone.'
MDMA Affects Men vs. Women
Research has shown that MDMA produces stronger hallucinogenic effects in women as compared to men. This means that women should consider microdosing MDMA to avoid getting pushed over the edge.
Dangers of Using MDMA on Sex
Because MDMA tends to lower one's inhibitions, the user might be more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior. This includes having multiple sexual partners and engaging in unprotected sex. This predisposes the user to sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies.
Do’s and Dont’s for Couples Trying MDMA for Sex
Don’t consume more than is necessary. When dosing for pleasure, less is often more.
Do hydrate frequently and boost your electrolyte intake
Don’t set your expectations too high; let the events roll at a normal pace
Do use supplements such as magnesium and vitamin C to ease your comedown
Mixing Drugs with MDMA
When taking MDMA, avoid drugs such as amitriptyline, fluvoxamine, and haloperidol.
Alcohol vs. Marijuana vs. Ecstasy for Sex
The recreational use of alcohol, marijuana, and ecstasy is prevalent among youths in the U.S. A new study by the NYU Meyers College of Nursing in collaboration with the Center for Drug Use and HIV/HCV research has shown that all three have different effects on sex, ranging from attraction to sensitivity, sexual performance and sexual risk. The results of the self-reported survey were published in the journal Psychology and Sexuality in 2018. From the study, the following emerged:
- Alcohol and ecstasy were associated with increased sexual effects, including sexual urge, the feeling of being attractive and finding potential mates to be attractive, and duration of sex.
- Ecstasy was associated with easy arousal, increased sensuality and sexual intensity.
- Alcohol and ecstasy were associated with increased sexual dysfunction.
- Alcohol was associated with increased post-sex regret.
The researchers concluded that while all three offer different benefits for sex, they each have risks that should be considered.
MDMA Assisted Therapy for Sexual Assault Victims
Research showed that MDMA could result in the attenuation of PTSD symptoms. Sexual victims who have PTSD may benefit from MDMA assisted therapy, but further investigations are needed to confirm these findings.
Should You Use MDMA to Spice up Your Relationship?
MDMA can be used to spice up your relationship, especially if you struggle to express what you want to your partner. It has the tendency to open people’s hearts and minds, and they can explain and talk about what each person likes in sex and in their relationship. However, you should ensure that you consume the right dosage to avoid having a bad trip.
Sex on MDMA seems to be a good idea for couples that need to enhance intimacy in their relationship. Research has shown that MDMA increases sexual urge and pleasure and may help couples prolong the sexual encounter. Users have reported that MDMA enhances sensuality and the feeling of closeness with an intimate partner. However, MDMA may inhibit sexual performance in males. Therefore, it is advisable to wait for the comedown before engaging in real boning. Lastly, don’t mix MDMA with pharmaceutical drugs before consulting your pharmacist.